Being "Facebook Free" is a wonderful experience and I think more people should try it. It makes you realize just how much social networking has taken over the planet. I may sound like a bit of a hypocrite since I met my boyfriend on Facebook and we wouldn't be together had we not met there, but I've decided to get rid of it for good now.
People have told me how they can't get rid of it because they have family in other places and don't want to lose contact with old friends and I think that's a perfectly sound reason to keep your facebook. I'm not being jugemental, it's just what's best for me. There's too much drama with a lot of people I have on there as friends and I get sucked in to trying to help other people with their problems and I'm just done with it. Besides that, all my family are pretty much right here with me in my house and A and myself communicate mostly over email and Skype anyway so it's not too big of a deal. And, I have this blog so people can pop in and see how things are going with me. I'll try to write a bit each morning, hopefully. Post pictures some as well.
It really is freeing though. In many ways, it's my only link to people in my past. The only way those people could contact me would be through facebook and I really don't need them writing me random messages and drudging up things from the past. I have enough drama in my life with family things going on without all of that crap.
I still have email, my phone, this blog. The "old fashioned" way of communication. It's funny how quickly facebook has taken over the world, it really is. It's not even all that old, what a few years? maybe. Very interesting. Mark Zuckerberg has created a very, very addictive, wide-spreading form of virtual life.
I don't hold anything against anyone keep their facebook, this is a personal decision. No one need feel guilty, that's not what I'm getting at. It is very freeing and a wonderful feeling actually, I quite enjoy it. Feels like it's one less crowd of thought in my head. But then we all know I'm a bit batty ;)
Anyways. I will miss seeing what some of my friends will post, thats true, but I can live without all of that, I lived without it before it was around and I certainly can again.
And now, I am Footloose and Facebook Free.
Monday, September 19, 2011
Cure for Depression
I look around at the world and my life and everything that's going horribly wrong and I can see how people would get depressed...but then I see all the wonderful things happening, God's beautiful creation, all the wonderful people, every good thing that can sometimes get lost in the shadow of disappointments, lost dreams, broken hearts, lost lives...the key to living is seeing past the shadows, through the murk and mire of disappointment and see the good. You can't make it through life by surviving. Surviving isn't living, to live we need to keen our senses to the good. Even the little things, seeing someone willingly open a door for another person, someone letting you merge freely while driving, a person not getting upset when someone bumps into him. Apply some of these to yourself, sometimes it helps to satisfy yourself, to know that you were able to do something good for someone else even if your life is falling apart can make you feel accomplished. Depression is a choice. You can give in or stand up to it, tell it off and turn away. You wouldn't believe the rush you get from stepping away from the brink of depression, the power in realizing you just accomplished in one moment, with one change of perspective something people have been fighting for years. Be aware of the bad, but see the good. Dwell on the good, not the bad. If you eat moldy food, you'll get sick. If you eat good food you'll be healthy. Feed your mind and soul on the good things and have a healthy spirit. Read your Bible and pray, God wants to hear everything going wrong and everything going right. Vent to him and thank him for everything good and ask him to help you see the good. Make a list at the end of the day of at least three good things you saw that day. Before long you'll notice mire and more good. Just keep your eyes and ears open, you'll find it. And that is my cure for depression.
( side effects may include...)
•Happiness
•Smiling
•Laughing
•Faith in humankind
( side effects may include...)
•Happiness
•Smiling
•Laughing
•Faith in humankind
Words...
Words are powerful things. Especially to women.
We can go from being on top of the world, to feeling like crawling into a hole and dying in a matter of seconds just from the wrong choice of words.
When life gets confusing or hard and we get flustered, we need someone to listen, to be there, to hold us and let us cry. To whisper “shh, everything’s gonna be alright.”
Even if that person can’t be there to hold us, just saying they wish they could help, they wish they could hold us and give us comfort is enough, because of the words and the power those words have over us girls.
Sometimes when we’re upset, we aren’t necessarily upset at you, just a situation in life, something emotional, deep down inside of us and we don’t need defenses from you, we need comfort and loving care, to feel safe. Like your arms and your love are our sanctuary.
We’re like flowers who need some shelter from the sun and storms or we’ll start to wilt.
Take care of your flower, if she’s feeling frustrated with life, hold her and let her cry, kiss away her tears and be her strong shoulder. Pray with her and help her give her problems to God. You are the strong leader and you should help her pull her attention back to God, be the reminder that you are there to help, but so is God, and between you and God, she will be safe. Because God is the one who has given her to you, he has entrusted her to you, and he loves her dearly.
A man who can do this, is truly a man and no longer a boy.
A man needs to understand what his woman needs and give it to her because she is what he cares about and she needs a man who can lead her and protect her just like God leads her and protects her.
Now, this doesn’t go one way. We girls need to find out what our men need and help them the same way. We need to be encouragers and let them know how well they are doing and how amazing they are.
Relationships are about giving. What can you give to help your special someone? What do they need from you and are you truly the right one to help them with what they need?
We can go from being on top of the world, to feeling like crawling into a hole and dying in a matter of seconds just from the wrong choice of words.
When life gets confusing or hard and we get flustered, we need someone to listen, to be there, to hold us and let us cry. To whisper “shh, everything’s gonna be alright.”
Even if that person can’t be there to hold us, just saying they wish they could help, they wish they could hold us and give us comfort is enough, because of the words and the power those words have over us girls.
Sometimes when we’re upset, we aren’t necessarily upset at you, just a situation in life, something emotional, deep down inside of us and we don’t need defenses from you, we need comfort and loving care, to feel safe. Like your arms and your love are our sanctuary.
We’re like flowers who need some shelter from the sun and storms or we’ll start to wilt.
Take care of your flower, if she’s feeling frustrated with life, hold her and let her cry, kiss away her tears and be her strong shoulder. Pray with her and help her give her problems to God. You are the strong leader and you should help her pull her attention back to God, be the reminder that you are there to help, but so is God, and between you and God, she will be safe. Because God is the one who has given her to you, he has entrusted her to you, and he loves her dearly.
A man who can do this, is truly a man and no longer a boy.
A man needs to understand what his woman needs and give it to her because she is what he cares about and she needs a man who can lead her and protect her just like God leads her and protects her.
Now, this doesn’t go one way. We girls need to find out what our men need and help them the same way. We need to be encouragers and let them know how well they are doing and how amazing they are.
Relationships are about giving. What can you give to help your special someone? What do they need from you and are you truly the right one to help them with what they need?
Perspective..
Why does everyone always go with the normal?
We write things, like movies, the same way everyone has always done. Similarities are running rampant all over your T.V, your computer screen, your books.
I guess nothing really is new under the sun...
For once, I'd like to see a disaster on an airplane happen and no one gets hit by the food cart.
What if there was a dentist with bad teeth.
Obese models, ninja's in wheelchairs, goats that eat nothing but grass.
Zombies who don't eat people, vampires who hate blood.
What if while we're watching the T.V, it's actually watching us?
Our whole world is built on perceptions, and assumptions. It's our nature, but the problem is, we jump to conclusions so fast, we don't see the truth.
For instance...a girl walks into a store with dark circles under her eyes, messy hair and needing a shower. She picks up the few groceries she can afford and hands the cashier crumpled and dirty dollar bills.
Everyone in the store assumes, from her appearance, she's a filthy little drug addicted street rat. When in reality she got the circles under her eyes from weeks of staying up working a night shift after a long day shift just to buy those few groceries to feed her younger siblings because her father is dead and her mother is disabled.
A man has an affair and divorces his wife. Sounds bad doesn't it? he's a horrible man.
But what if, his wife verbally abused him every year for the fourteen years they were married. Everytime he came home from work she exploded when he walked in with dirt on his boots messing up her floor.
When he wanted to spend time with his family she freaked out and said he never wanted to spend time with her.
Always told him he was a failure, always told everyone he had anger issues and a drinking problem when he only tossed that chair at the wall because he was agnry but didn't want to hurt the woman he loved and had one beer with a friend one night.
Then he met a woman who would just talk to him, offered him friendship and fell in love with friendliness.
Sometimes we push people away and blame them when really, all that was wrong was we weren't happy.
Just because the circles are there, doesn't mean the drugs are.
Just because he fell in love with someone else, doesn't mean he was a sex crazed jerk.
Just because the cart is on the airplane, doesn't mean it will kill someone.
But maybe I'm wrong, maybe she is a hype.
Maybe he's a liar and a cheater.
Maybe the cart is a hazard.
But what if there's more than meets the eye?
Lets bust from this prison of perceptions and look at the whole picture. Let's change the way we view our world and our lives, and maybe, we'll find a wonderful world of new ideas and bright futures.
We write things, like movies, the same way everyone has always done. Similarities are running rampant all over your T.V, your computer screen, your books.
I guess nothing really is new under the sun...
For once, I'd like to see a disaster on an airplane happen and no one gets hit by the food cart.
What if there was a dentist with bad teeth.
Obese models, ninja's in wheelchairs, goats that eat nothing but grass.
Zombies who don't eat people, vampires who hate blood.
What if while we're watching the T.V, it's actually watching us?
Our whole world is built on perceptions, and assumptions. It's our nature, but the problem is, we jump to conclusions so fast, we don't see the truth.
For instance...a girl walks into a store with dark circles under her eyes, messy hair and needing a shower. She picks up the few groceries she can afford and hands the cashier crumpled and dirty dollar bills.
Everyone in the store assumes, from her appearance, she's a filthy little drug addicted street rat. When in reality she got the circles under her eyes from weeks of staying up working a night shift after a long day shift just to buy those few groceries to feed her younger siblings because her father is dead and her mother is disabled.
A man has an affair and divorces his wife. Sounds bad doesn't it? he's a horrible man.
But what if, his wife verbally abused him every year for the fourteen years they were married. Everytime he came home from work she exploded when he walked in with dirt on his boots messing up her floor.
When he wanted to spend time with his family she freaked out and said he never wanted to spend time with her.
Always told him he was a failure, always told everyone he had anger issues and a drinking problem when he only tossed that chair at the wall because he was agnry but didn't want to hurt the woman he loved and had one beer with a friend one night.
Then he met a woman who would just talk to him, offered him friendship and fell in love with friendliness.
Sometimes we push people away and blame them when really, all that was wrong was we weren't happy.
Just because the circles are there, doesn't mean the drugs are.
Just because he fell in love with someone else, doesn't mean he was a sex crazed jerk.
Just because the cart is on the airplane, doesn't mean it will kill someone.
But maybe I'm wrong, maybe she is a hype.
Maybe he's a liar and a cheater.
Maybe the cart is a hazard.
But what if there's more than meets the eye?
Lets bust from this prison of perceptions and look at the whole picture. Let's change the way we view our world and our lives, and maybe, we'll find a wonderful world of new ideas and bright futures.
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